Flagging sexual libido has become a major sexual issue and a cause of distress for couples these days. There is a short writeup all out to overcome. This does not, by any chance, substitute professional counseling and treatment but can help people understand all aspects of this problem.

Re-ignite Your Passions and Sex Drive

Flagging sexual libido has become a major sexual issue and a cause of distress for couples these days. Earlier, this problem was associated with advanced age but these days it is  alarming to see that increasing number of younger generation are falling prey to it.

When couples fall in love, they cannot keep their hands off each other. But generally is such a honeymoon does not last too long as either or both the partners’ libido tends to go on a decline for one reason or the other.

This leads to a feeling of rejection and being unloved. If the problem is not controlled at initial stages, it spirals down to bigger problems often leading to breakups.

What are the reasons for lowering sexual libido?

It is unbelievable that a person we loved so much at one time suddenly stops being attractive or desirable. Therefore, one has to understand that there have to be certain reasons, which need addressing at the earliest.

There can be many reasons, but the most common ones are –

Relationships. If couples are in an abusive or unhappy relationship, it is unlikely that they will be like having sex.

Stress. Overwork and work-related related stress either at the office or at home is another big issue that comes between a great sexual relationship.

Medicines. There are many medications that can affect sex drive – these can be antidepressants, tranquillizers, steroids, medicines for BP, etc.

Physical Illness. When we are physically ill, the last thing on our mind is sex. Chronic illness results in worry, depression, anxiety, and finally a total disinterest in sex.

Diversions. Being in love with someone else, despite being in relationship with the other can lead to a disinterest in sex.

Remedial Measures.

Loss of libido is not an illness; it can be easily overcome provided one is sincere towards trying to working out a relationship. The trick is to identify and address the root cause of the problem – not the symptoms. Whatever happens, one should never try to give the blame to the partner for this is a problem that needs to working out together. Some of the methods to kick-start your sex life is:-

Dialogue. It is surprising that the simplest and easiest of the solutions is also generally the most neglected one. Instead of talking to the partner, we talk to everyone else, which does not help in any case.

It is amazing how to people who spend so much time together have no idea what the other one is thinking. Therefore, a meaningful dialogue to discuss all the expectations and issues is the best solution to overcome such a situation.

Physical Fitness. As brought out earlier, if we are ill it takes a toll on sex life. One has to physically fit and strong and should therefore do regular exercise and lead healthy life.

Relaxation. Overwork is also one of the killers of good relationship. It is imperative that a person is relaxed in order to be romantic.

Spending Time Together. One always spends more time together in a relationship that is new, but tends to forget this basic fact and takes each other for granted as the days go. However, one should be very conscious of it and should try to find ways and means to spend time together. A Short weekend outing is a very good way of overcoming whatever tensions have happened over the week!

A Healthy and Nourishing Diet. Good diet has an important role to play for a good sexual relationship. Certain food items are known to give a boost to libido. These are chocolates, avocados, mangoes, peaches, strawberries, pineapples etc.

In addition, items like flex seeds that contain essential fatty acids, zinc rich foods like oysters, red meat, sesame seeds, and yoghurt are good for and increased sexual libido.

Counseling. At times, relationships are spoiled to such an extent that the meaningful dialogue is impossible between the couple, in such cases. One should never hesitate in going for a professional counseling together.