wizard on May 14, 2018

Control freaks are found everywhere, in the form of colleagues, bosses, friends, relatives, and even spouses.

It common to come across control freaks at work as well as home.

Tolerance levels are at a nadir and selfish part of personality is on the rise. The sentiment permeates much of modern lifestyle.

Poor upbringing with self opinioned and over-assertive parents is the main cause of such a phenomenon that actually destroys the fun in any relationship.

It can be really difficult and draining to work with, or live with, somebody who is controlling. This is because they don’t see themselves as controlling. They see themselves as being right!

Whether it’s asking you to do things in a certain way, or micromanaging events, being around a control freak can be emotionally draining.

In order to learn how to handle such people, it is important to look at their psychology- the main reason why they behave this way. It is all about anxiety.

The controlling nature stems from an opinioned upbringing by anxious parents who expect to live their dreams through their children. It may also be due to just a generalized feeling of anxiety or one-up-manship.

A sure sign of such a behaviour is the need to stick to routines, making and following “rules of the house” and having an illusion of knowing exactly how things will turn out.
These are their subconscious ways of managing and controlling with a view to to view to avoid unforeseen issues and making the other person feel like a victim.
Such a behaviour can cause stress in relationships

So when someone is obsessively dictating how you should be or feel, remember that it’s less about you and more about their own insecurities.

How to handle ‘control freaks’?

Here are things that can be done to make being around these people more bearable.

1. Give them advance warnings of changes

Control freaks take time to get used to unexpected changes. Give them time to alter their expectations so that they can find the resources to deal the change.

2. Do not try to control them

Arguing with control freaks NEVER works – since they have spent their lives working on being right. Telling them anything different only makes them more disagreeable.

3. Start being assertive

Be confident and refuse to feel victimized. Control freaks are able to sense when you feel like a victim and tend to make a bee-line for you as they get a feeling of being less anxious when you start doing what they tell you.
Instead of trying to take control, just leave the situation.

Never give justifications; and instead trust your own judgement.

4. Being consistent

Remember, control freaks are always subconsciously looking for the ways to argue about their way of doing things!
They will jump at the opportunity to point out when you are wrong. Therefore, if you consistently stick to your methods and opinions, they will have to dealing with situations different from their opinion and will stop arguements with you.

Lastly, have the self respect and resolve to avoid being a victim by being tactful, assertive and understanding.


wizard on November 22, 2017


Sun nesting slowly into the trees,

And all is quiet,like a summer breeze.

Pulling our blankets, I sense the calm night air,

And turn towards you ,fingers caressing your hair.


Arms hold you in a loving embrace

Your hands touch my lips and begin to trace

A touch so tender and ever so light

This feeling of wonder, your smile in my sight.


Tenderness of your touch on my very being

Your smile, caress and the intensity of breathing

Passion and warmth come together,I sense

This special magic in the air, its aura intense .


If someone watches us from far,

Sees euphoria high as a newborn star.

Emotions yielding to the desires and our goals

We touch and feel the passion of our souls .


Locked together close as two could be

Exposed by dimming light no one can see.

Our meeting is something we know would unviel

Passion of the night when our love sets sail.


Tomorrow will come starting a new phase,

This evening of emotion will remain our coming days.

This heart that you captured in the warm sunset glow

Will find you again, wherever you go .


Whenever I hear the trees whisper

and see the stars so clear

It is your warm presence and passion

that I feel so near.

wizard on May 5, 2017


For a newcomer to Thailand, Bangkok is often the first stop.

Getting around in Bangkok can appear to be quite intimidating to some because of the chaotic traffic and the crowded areas, besides names that could pose a challenge when it comes to pronouncing them; which makes it difficult to ask the locals too.

However getting around in Bangkok is quite easy once you get the basics right.

Using Taxis

uber-grabtaxi-logoBangkok has a huge number of taxis that you will find everywhere. However, not all of them are reliable as far as fares are concerned. You must choose the ones that have metered option. Also while using them it’s advisable to track on Google maps.

The fares are reasonable and almost three to four times as compared to the other modes of transport (covered in succeeding paragraphs). Which means, if you are groups of 3 or 4 or a family, then it’s better to hire a taxi to move around. It saves your time and is more comfortable.

There are local taxis as well as brands like Uber operating in Bangkok. The “Grab” brand of taxis are cheaper than Uber and are easy to get. However, remember to register yourself on their apps before landing in Thailand unless you have a local cell phone number as they would send you an OTP at the time of registration.

MRT (Metro) and BTS (Sky train) Lines 

Both are excellent options to take you anywhere in Bangkok and is possible to cover most of the city using these. However as brought out earlier, of there are 3 or more of you, it’s cost effective to use cabs.


Using the MRT and BTS is very easy and the service is excellent though you must avoid the rush hours on certain routes. Taking a metro link saves you time and money since the roads generally witness a heavy traffic and road blocks are common.


The bus service is excellent too, but the route numbers are complicated and you would get used to only once you go on certain routes frequently. There are AC and non-AC services but, to be frank, unless you plan to stay longer than a week, stick to the cabs, metro links and sky trains only.

The buses are the cheapest option but also take the maximum time because of road blocks. They can best be used as connections from BTS and MRT stations to the place of your choice.


tuk tukJust like buses, the Tuk-Tuks are best used only for unconnected places between the Sky train and MRT stations.

The fares are not fixed, hence they are best avoided unless you get used to the place and are aware of approximate fares.

As a thumb rule for a newcomer, it is best to negotiate to about half of what is quoted.

Airport Buses

Most of you would be interested in going to or coming from the airport.

Remember, there are some excellent airport buses that ply every 30 to 40 minutes from Mo Chak (BTS station) Bangkok_Don_Muang_airport_bus_Thaizeror Chatunchuk Market (MRT station).

You can reach these stations from anywhere very easily and walk down the footbridge to catch these buses.

Again, use this option only if there are 3 or 4 of you as a taxi would be faster and more comfortable.








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wizard on September 22, 2016


The impact of the social media on our lives is undeniable. Whether it is for personal use or for your business, proper use of social media can easily boost your image and give you that cutting edge in whichever field you use it in.

There is a huge variety of platforms that gives the users wide range of options to choose from. What you choose and how you these social media tools can make all the difference in boosting your field of interest.

With almost 60% Smartphone user market worldwide in the age group of 18 to 25, social media apps are essential for connecting others with similar interests.

yammerThe social media platforms provide these youngsters with many opportunities and benefits; not only for the individuals but also for communities. Social interactions using these apps are valuable in developing and bolstering business as well as personal interests.

Selecting and using them wisely can make all the difference in your success rate of being noticed!

Essentials for developing Social Media

While developing social media based applications for smart phones, Microsoft Inc. keeps in mind the following objectives –

  • Understanding what holds the interest of the younger population looking greater technological advances in their smart phones, laptops and other electronic devices.
  • Have a clear idea of the market as well as the specific needs of a particular group which is to be targeted.
  • Carrying out extensive surveys to understand the essentials of what the user requirements.

Microsoft has always been on the forefront in developing the best of social media platforms. Its research focuses on three key factors – the futuristic trends, easy interface and the optimal user experience.

yammer_02Platforms like Yammer give a cutting edge to organizations by keeping their employees connected. It is a perfect tool for an organization as it increases productivity by streamlining internal communication.

It is also a perfect alternative to traditional methods of communications such as email, meetings, etc as it provides fluid and spontaneous communication in real time. It’s cross platform connectivity on apps for Android, iOS and Windows  gives a smarter way to collaborate across all verticals.

This in turn leads to improved corporate environment which is so essential as it leads to better team building. It is also ideal for collaboration with external groups. The mere functionality of its superb user interface makes it stand out amongst its own niche.

Important Ingredients Of Any Social Media Platform

A social media platform offers a value addition that is so essential by targeting a particular group after understanding their requirements.

  • Understanding the Competition – It is essential to understand what the competition is offering and give something that is more than that. For every social platform there are many competitors. Microsoft offers incentives to entrepreneurs for developing a leading platform and adapts only the best.
  • Frequent Up-gradation – No social media can succeed without a dynamic up gradation that caters to the changing needs of the users Microsoft uses some of the best technology to understand their user’s need and upgrades the various social platforms regularly to suit the ever increasing aspirations of the audience.
  • Marketing Strategy – No social media can succeed unless there is a campaign that magnifies its achievements as well as differentials that sets it apart from the competition. Regular interaction helps Microsoft Technologies maintain a huge impact because of the brand image while developing any social media platform. Hence it offers the most user friendly social media apps as well as other services.
  • Importance of Help Desk – Having an interactive customer support is core of any business in Microsoft Technologies. It has some of the best customer services in the domain that caters to all the customers’ needs.

The transition time for development of social media apps is ever decreasing and Microsoft has been well up in giving the best of social media solutions that lead to new experiences in digital living.

David Sacks, the Founder of Yammer feels that the benefits of Yammer extend well beyond enriched internal communication as, “The companies which use Yammer have employees who feel more connected to their co-workers as well as to the company’s mission.”


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wizard on May 16, 2016

A Holiday in Santorini

A Holiday in Santorini 2Santorini is one of the most beautiful places and one of the favorite tourist destinations in the world.

Its impressive caldera, famous volcano and the sight of a beautiful sunset makes it one of the most romantic spots and a perfect place for a quiet and memorable honeymoon holiday.

Getting To Santorini

Santorini is one of the famous Cyclades islands in Aegean Sea which was devastated by a violent volcanic eruption during the 16th century B.C.

Since there is an immense interest in the Greek offshore islands these days and there has been a spurt of tourist activity in this region, you will get many good ferries operating from the mainland. Since these ferries go to most islands, a holiday in Santorini should ideally be combined with the other islands.

Although the best way to go on a Holiday in Santorini is to catch a ferry but some people also prefer to choose the services of chartered flights. Personally, I would recommend trying out the ferries because you would be able to see the breathtaking beauty of the sea dotted with numerous small beautiful Greek islands as you cruise past them.

Top Reasons for a Holiday in Santorini

A Holiday in SantoriniSantorini has two principal townships, Oia and Fira. These towns lie on the rim of cliffs above the underwater caldera (crater) and overlook the pristine Aegean Sea.

With its long picturesque beaches made of white lava pebbles and the clear blue water all around, Santorini looks like something straight out of the book.  

It radiates the warmth of its people and natural beauty that speaks for itself; which makes it a top choice of honeymooners a well as tourists looking for something out of the ordinary.

The amazing sights, the delicious food and the warmth of the people who live on this island is something that will make you fill full of positive energy.

If you start taking pictures of the breathtaking beauty of this place you will have a collection that would certainly fill up the entire album and refresh your memories for years to come.




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wizard on February 8, 2016


I’ve met many others before,

Yet,  I’ve never felt like this,

The way my senses inhale you

My body quivers,

with an exceptional bliss,

How I wish my senses get frozen

From my intensity of sweet desire,

I need you with me always

To hold you, feel you in my arms,

Till we are finally consumed by fire.

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wizard on January 21, 2016



The morning rays of sun,
Reflecting on your hair.
A beautiful sight they all say,
Your awakened beauty,
Reveals unparalleled start of day.

Vibrant colors splashing,
caressing your beautiful face.
Reflects a new dawn,
Makes my life pause,
As I soak in the amazing grace.

wizard on January 17, 2016


(Picture Courtesy : Archie Mishra)

You make  my world beautiful,

I see beauty all around me.

The sights, the sounds, the world,

Its true beauty surrounds me.

The tree leaves made of emerald,

The seas with richest azure,

The gentle waves, the soothing sound,

All I see is beautiful all around.

I search my soul, trying to know

What makes this world go around?

Which flute is so magical?

What could be the source of this sound?

You beauty glistens in the sun

I feel the rays, And then realize,

The addiction has just begun.

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wizard on January 11, 2016

Concept image of the six most common questions and answers on a signpost.

Instinct or intuition is the capability of having a flash of knowledge of certain event even before it has happened. Simply speaking, it is that gut feeling which, at hindsight, turns out to be right!

We all get these flashes at some time of the other; some of us however get it more than the others. Most of us generally simply overlook and brush it aside and recall only after something that came as instinct, proved to be correct.

Only a few mention it later as just one of those gut feelings that happened. What is amazing however, is the fact that people who place bets, go to horse races, indulge in lottery, etc seem to trust this amazing source of guidance more than scientists and believers!

With a little thought, you would realize that if you could train this instant or intuition and arrive at sound knowledge which you can use in your life it would make it much more meaningful and also give better results for every event that happens.

If you could train your instinct you could also use it for getting that “inner” guidance when in a tight corner.

How to train your instinct

1.    Trust your Instincts -The first step to training your instinct is learning to trust it.  As you trust it and proceed with this training you would see amazing results; some coming very slowly at first, but in the long run if you continue and have faith, it will help you achieving so many things that you desire and would solidify your faith even further.
What happens when you make a choice from among many candidates that have similar qualifications?  How do you select the best when everything else seems equal? Well, at this time your instinct comes into play and you automatically choose what you feel is the best; it is like the gut feeling that you have. But how often is this correct?  Training your instinct involves tapping into the subconscious mind to get the best results.

2.   Meditate – The next step is to learning to do instant meditation; that is, getting into this state for a short while instantly.  Meditation brings your mind to rest and helps in removing the clutter and noise which in turn makes it easier for you to focus and communicate with your subconscious mind that drives your thought process and actions. This is the time when you just hold on for a moment and listen to it.

3.   Ask the right question and learn to listen – this is very important; once your mind is at rest and calm, ask the question and wait for the answer.  To do so, you have to formulate the question very clearly before you start meditation.  Having made your mind calm, hold it in that state till the time you get the first thought about the question that you asked.  It may not come easily at first but with training, this communication between your thought and your subconscious would become clearer and clearer and you would get better results as you proceed.

4.   Listen to your gut feeling– sometimes thoughts come to us without even asking questions. Do not brush them aside or overlook them.  Instead, make a note of such fleeting thoughts that have been coming to you at odd moments. They often form a pattern that points to a solution.

5.   Make a journal of intuitive thoughts – Quite often, while you would notice that thoughts that arise without your knowledge are about the situation that is currently at hand or that is bothering you for some time.  These are also about the situations in which you are seeking some answers.   Therefore, it stands to reason that if you make a journal of these thoughts that pop in and out of your mind at all times. You would find it much easier going through them at the later time frame to see which ones of them applied to the situation and use it for your own good.
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wizard on January 7, 2016

Woman-and-the-SunMost of us live our lives like chameleons; trying to “blend-in” by moulding our personalities and beliefs based on others opinions.

We trade our authentic self for security of being accepted and liked by our family, friends, peer groups as well as colleagues because of our fear of being judged as per their way of thinking.

And what does that lead to?

By suppressing our opinions, we are perceived as “good person” or “easy going”; But at a heavy cost.

We disrespected ourselves by allowing others to have an influence on some of the most crucial and major decisions of our lives. We end up not trusting ourselves to make our own choices. 

We withhold our thoughts and emotions and convey mixed signals or simply end up accepting something that we do not inherently like. Our frustration often turns into anger and that leads to guilt, shame, and anxiety. This is certainly a huge price to pay just so that others accept and like us!

This also destroys our confidence as well as self-worthiness. 

The only real solution to this is acceptance of what you are. You do not have to confirm to others beliefs but should be authentic.

Authenticity requires soul searching, commitment and hard work. Here are a few ideas to do so-

Step 1: Self love and forgiveness

Start by honoring and accepting the past by cultivating kindness towards yourself. Always be content and kind to yourself by stopping to blame yourself (or your luck) for whatever happened.

Step 2: Willingness to own your past mistakes and make a positive change.

Owning up own shortcomings and mistakes is the best way to repair our confidence and self-worth. Therefore make a commitment to change this.

Step 3: Creating a daily self-practice.

A daily practice of being truthful to yourself and living authentically takes care of the mind, body, as well as the spirit and nurtures a loving relationship with our soul. The following practices should be consciously followed in our life –

  • Mindfulness – Authentic people accept challenges and deal with situations calmly and display gratitude and love. How do we that? 
  • Self-respect – Be mindful of your beliefs. Remember, there will always be people who will not like your ideas, beliefs and attitude of self assurance – their opinions simply do not matter.
  • Courage – Create your own rules and standards that reflect your ideas and are in harmony with your true self. Have the courage to do what you believe is right. By doing so you will gain the inner strength and build your self-confidence.
  • Boldness – Be focused on being truthful at every moment, Once you are less focused about the acceptance and potential rejection from others you will feel liberated; which will definitely make you more happy. You will then face the world with more profound peace and confidence.


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