(Disclaimer – This is a work of Fiction . Any resemblance to any person or event is a mere coincidence )
Ana was in two minds since last few days and had not been able to resolve whether she should go and receive him or not. The early morning phone call put her into further dilemma.
Anyway, now it was too late to back out and she did admit to herself that the prospect of meeting someone as unique as him did give her adrenalin levels a boost.
They had been communicating on the phone and internet for over six months now, it had become almost a routine that his mail would come at 8:15 p.m. sharp. Sometimes a call on Skype that would last for at least an hour. What they talked was like a dream to them. There was nothing and yet there was everything.
All she knew was that time flew when she was in his company and the world was wonderful when he was in touch.
So it was natural for her heart to start pumping faster when he mentioned two days back that he would be coming to Cincinnati on a short trip and it would be nice if she would agree to meet him.
Agree to meet him? What sort of question was this? She had asked him.
Where was a question of not meeting him? Her life had turned a full circle ever since she had known him.
Curiously, he had got in touch with her quite by chance by dialing a wrong number. And then their friendship had grown within a matter of a few days. They both enjoyed each other’s company even if it was only on virtual platforms and calls and they looked forward to the appointed hour.
He made her feel like a small girl on the verge of her teens falling in love for the first time. His voice too had a young feel about him which would never betray his real age. Maybe what he talked was just words, but how would she know unless she met him. There was no question of letting this opportunity go. But then, she realized a woman has a lot to think about so many things.
“I think we should”
His sudden call at 5 p.m. instead of the usual 8:15 p.m two days back took her by surprise. He was understandably excited, because he had come to know that he was being sent on duty for a few days to Cincinnati, where she lived. After informing her of his trip, the question that he asked should not have surprised her, but it did. “Would you like to meet me”? She was amazed at his openness as he mentioned that he wanted to – “live every moment of his stay with her” Her heart was pounding at a faster pace as she tried to contain the wavering in her voice, “What do you think”?
Smiling, “of course, what about you? Would you not like to meet?”
“You know very well that I would insist”, he laughed.
And then he was back to his teasing, jovial self.
“Are you aware of the perils?”
“Oh! You do not know”?
“How would I know what’s in your mind. And what are the perils in meeting you, May I ask?”
“Well, let it go for the moment”, he laughed “I’m sure you know. I have been quite vocal about it in the past”
“Okay, we shall see.” she said knowingly and smiled.
He rang again the next day with a sense of urgency.
“Hey, you know something? I’m so excited about meeting you that I wish it would be as soon as I land.”
“Are you trying to give me some hints?” she asked in a teasing manner.
“Of course”, he laughed “I want you to come to the airport so that I set my eyes first on you.”
“Flirty, as always” she laughed back. After a slight pause, “okay, I will come. I do want to, but it all depends on what time the land. The airport is far and I do not want to be there late in the evening as the kids would be alone”
“No worries”, he said. “I will be landing there around 5 p.m. Would that time suit you”?
“Yes, that would be fine, I guess”
“It does get late sometimes, but I will keep you informed before the take off”
“That would be nice. I could start accordingly from office. It takes about one hour to reach”, she said.” but I haven’t seen you, so I hope we would be able to locate each other”
“Don’t you worry”, he laughed. “Leave that to me, I would seek you out among the millions”. He was flirting again.
What should she wear? She was wondering. He had admitted that his thoughts were focused only on her beautiful face so she need not to do anything more about her appearance as he found her perfect.
In his simplistic world he wouldn’t agree that a woman still needs to plan for her appearance. Despite the hours of daily talks that they did she had never asked him what he liked or what his favorite colors were. He insisted that he liked everything about her. All she knew was that at the age of 47 she had met someone who could send her heart pounding faster than she had known.
Initially, it all appeared to be like a dream to her which had over the period of time formed into reality. The effect he had on her was something else. Some of her colleagues had even commented that she had started looking lovelier than ever with more radiance in her face. One of them had actually caught on and remarked that she was sure that she was in love!
When she mentioned this to him, he broke into an uncontrollable fit of laughter and said he wanted to meet this wonderful friend of hers. The romantic flirt that he was. She could almost foresee his reactions at most of the times but there were moments when he would surprise her, which is what she loved about him.
The last two days had gone in preparation of his visit. Typically, he had not disclosed anything about his plans. Not that he might be having any. In his erratic way of thinking there was no need to plan anything when the chemistry was just right because that would start the reactions automatically.
The morning call brought the panic back. Not because she was going to meet a strange man whom she had never met before but because of what he said.
“My flight will take off at 12 noon and land there around 5 p.m. It might get delayed by 20 to 30 minutes. Will let you know if I can”
“Okay, fine”, she said. “But where should I wait for you”. Then added “are you sure you’ll be able to make out”
“Sweetheart”, he joked “there will not be many women there, so I will be able to easily spot you being the prettiest. My worry is that you do not go away with someone else because most of the guys will younger and smart”, he started laughing uncontrollably.
“Yes, you never know”, she played along teasingly.
“Oh, by the way,” he instructed “I forgot to tell you that you got to wait outside near the Starbucks koist area. There is a big billboard while on the way to airport which you cannot miss. Try to be next to it in your car.
“But I have never seen it earlier” she said. “I guess I will have to go a bit earlier just in case”
“Yes, do that”. And then the bombshell.
Almost instinctively he added, “And I do not know how you would react to be kissed full view on the tarmac”
“You seem surprised” He said, “don’t you know me by now? Nothing can stop me from kissing you when we meet, so be prepared”, he laughed loudly.
He used to talk like this most of the time but since it was always on the phone, she would play along knowing that it was mere talk. But now, this was for the real and the suddenness of his idea caught her off guard. Somehow, she knew that this guy was mad enough to carry it through.
“You are mad even to think about it” she said, admonished him and feigning anger.
“But I will”, laughter.
“Don’t you try”, she laughed back. “You think I will let you?”
“You will have no choice”, he laughed like the man knew his mind and added. “It would happen naturally”
“What do you mean naturally?” she retorted. “People do not kiss on the tarmac naturally”
“People in love do and I love you, so I will”
“That is natural?”
“Well, let me put it this way. It will be as natural as what happens to a snow flake when it falls on the skin”.
“Nice dialogue” she laughed “and what, may I ask happens naturally to it, Mr know all”.
“Oh, does it? Whatever, don’t you try any stupid thing out there else I won’t come?”
“Okay nothing stupid if you say”, he reconciled.
Than laughed, and added- “only what is natural”.
“You better behave” she teased him.
“Hmmm… We will see. Okay, now I got to go for check-in, so catch you on the tarmac later in the evening”, he laughed loudly, enjoying her predicament.
But she had faith in him and they had got very fond of each other. She admitted to herself that somehow she would not mind it and that it was what she wanted too. Stupid. She smiled at her own thoughts.
The flight was delayed by 30 minutes but she came well in time and parked the car under the shade of a big tree slightly away from the main gate of the technical area. The guard on the gate was courteous and even offered her to come and relax in the reception lounge which she declined. She did not want to confront many people on this little meeting. God knows who she would find there.
It was quite warm despite the sun having set and she put on the air-conditioner of the car to make it tolerable and prepare the car for the visitor. Taking a glance at her image in the rearview mirror from various angles she ensured that she looked attractive. She was excited about meeting him and catching herself looking in the mirror her colleagues observation came to her mind and she smiled.
She was looking beautiful, she reflected.
Suddenly, the flight was announced and there was a flurry of activity near the tarmac. Her heart started pounding faster as the big gates of the technical were opened and a crowd of men and women of all nationalities came out carrying their baggage. The area was full of people who had come to receive them.
God! How would she recognize him among this crowd when all she had seen were some photos? It was good that he had volunteered to seek her out, as she was one of the very few women who had come there.
Just to make it simpler for him, she stood outside the car amidst appreciative glances from the people passing by.
She looked at her watch. It had been 10 minutes since the gates had been opened. Where was he? Suddenly as if on cue, voice popped up from behind her.
“Hello, Ana”? It was a question as well as acknowledgement of recognition.
She should have guessed it. He would have never made a silent entry. She turned around and recognized him from his pictures immediately.
Control freaks are found everywhere, in the form of colleagues, bosses, friends, relatives, and even spouses.
It common to come across control freaks at work as well as home.
Tolerance levels are at a nadir and selfish part of personality is on the rise. The sentiment permeates much of modern lifestyle.
Poor upbringing with self opinioned and over-assertive parents is the main cause of such a phenomenon that actually destroys the fun in any relationship.
It can be really difficult and draining to work with, or live with, somebody who is controlling. This is because they don’t see themselves as controlling. They see themselves as being right!
Whether it’s asking you to do things in a certain way, or micromanaging events, being around a control freak can be emotionally draining.
In order to learn how to handle such people, it is important to look at their psychology- the main reason why they behave this way. It is all about anxiety.
The controlling nature stems from an opinioned upbringing by anxious parents who expect to live their dreams through their children. It may also be due to just a generalized feeling of anxiety or one-up-manship.
A sure sign of such a behaviour is the need to stick to routines, making and following “rules of the house” and having an illusion of knowing exactly how things will turn out.
These are their subconscious ways of managing and controlling with a view to to view to avoid unforeseen issues and making the other person feel like a victim.
Such a behaviour can cause stress in relationships
So when someone is obsessively dictating how you should be or feel, remember that it’s less about you and more about their own insecurities.
How to handle ‘control freaks’?
Here are things that can be done to make being around these people more bearable.
1. Give them advance warnings of changes
Control freaks take time to get used to unexpected changes. Give them time to alter their expectations so that they can find the resources to deal the change.
2. Do not try to control them
Arguing with control freaks NEVER works – since they have spent their lives working on being right. Telling them anything different only makes them more disagreeable.
3. Start being assertive
Be confident and refuse to feel victimized. Control freaks are able to sense when you feel like a victim and tend to make a bee-line for you as they get a feeling of being less anxious when you start doing what they tell you.
Instead of trying to take control, just leave the situation.
Never give justifications; and instead trust your own judgement.
4. Being consistent
Remember, control freaks are always subconsciously looking for the ways to argue about their way of doing things!
They will jump at the opportunity to point out when you are wrong. Therefore, if you consistently stick to your methods and opinions, they will have to dealing with situations different from their opinion and will stop arguements with you.
Lastly, have the self respect and resolve to avoid being a victim by being tactful, assertive and understanding.
For a newcomer to Thailand, Bangkok is often the first stop.
Getting around in Bangkok can appear to be quite intimidating to some because of the chaotic traffic and the crowded areas, besides names that could pose a challenge when it comes to pronouncing them; which makes it difficult to ask the locals too.
However getting around in Bangkok is quite easy once you get the basics right.
Bangkok has a huge number of taxis that you will find everywhere. However, not all of them are reliable as far as fares are concerned. You must choose the ones that have metered option. Also while using them it’s advisable to track on Google maps.
The fares are reasonable and almost three to four times as compared to the other modes of transport (covered in succeeding paragraphs). Which means, if you are groups of 3 or 4 or a family, then it’s better to hire a taxi to move around. It saves your time and is more comfortable.
There are local taxis as well as brands like Uber operating in Bangkok. The “Grab” brand of taxis are cheaper than Uber and are easy to get. However, remember to register yourself on their apps before landing in Thailand unless you have a local cell phone number as they would send you an OTP at the time of registration.
MRT (Metro) and BTS (Sky train) Lines
Both are excellent options to take you anywhere in Bangkok and is possible to cover most of the city using these. However as brought out earlier, of there are 3 or more of you, it’s cost effective to use cabs.
Using the MRT and BTS is very easy and the service is excellent though you must avoid the rush hours on certain routes. Taking a metro link saves you time and money since the roads generally witness a heavy traffic and road blocks are common.
The bus service is excellent too, but the route numbers are complicated and you would get used to only once you go on certain routes frequently. There are AC and non-AC services but, to be frank, unless you plan to stay longer than a week, stick to the cabs, metro links and sky trains only.
The buses are the cheapest option but also take the maximum time because of road blocks. They can best be used as connections from BTS and MRT stations to the place of your choice.
Just like buses, the Tuk-Tuks are best used only for unconnected places between the Sky train and MRT stations.
The fares are not fixed, hence they are best avoided unless you get used to the place and are aware of approximate fares.
As a thumb rule for a newcomer, it is best to negotiate to about half of what is quoted.
Most of you would be interested in going to or coming from the airport.
Remember, there are some excellent airport buses that ply every 30 to 40 minutes from Mo Chak (BTS station) or Chatunchuk Market (MRT station).
You can reach these stations from anywhere very easily and walk down the footbridge to catch these buses.
Again, use this option only if there are 3 or 4 of you as a taxi would be faster and more comfortable.